The most common phrase many women say is: “Why should I suffer with him?” But they never reflect on themselves. If you were born into wealth or have strong abilities, and you choose a man with nothing, helping and caring for him—that’s truly suffering with him. But if you were born with nothing and have little earning potential, living in a rented apartment and ordering takeout every day—that’s also suffering. When your boyfriend is with you in this situation, you’re both facing hardship and storms together; it’s not that you’re suffering for him—you’d be suffering just the same without him. Only when you become outstanding yourself can others truly add value to your life; otherwise, it’s just needless complaining.